In our culture – and this day and age – the “role” of women has been so redefined that many women (including myself) live in a lot of confusion. The messages from our culture – and even from the body of Christ – so often undermine the beauty of womanhood, and God’s original plan for women.
See, woman was NOT designed to simply be a servant to man. She was designed to stand alongside man and help him rule in dominion for God’s Kingdom. Rank & file came along only because of Adam & Eve’s choices, which – let’s face it – can so often EASILY be our own…
God has clearly defined a woman’s place and where her heart must rest: God, Husband, Home & Family.
Does this mean a woman cannot – or should not – work? I don’t believe so. Proverbs 31 clearly indicates a hard-working, entrepreneurial woman.
But her focus was her relationship with God, her relationship with her husband, her relationship with family and home, and then her role in work. Far too often, it’s a struggle to maintain these godly priorities. Maybe you don’t struggle here - but I sure do – and it’s NOT easy to realign them.
See – I like work – I like achievement. I like accolades and praise for a job well done. I like a tangible wage for the work I do. I don’t like doing work for the sake of work. I like the feeling of a job well done – and the acknowledgment that comes with it.
But being a stay-at-home wife & mom – those things don’t come in the same way they do with a career or job. I MIGHT get a “thanks” for making dinner – but should I get a bad attitude if my family does not worship at my feet for every teeny tiny little thing I do? Well, No – I shouldn’t. But too often, I do.
I feel underappreciated & undervalued. And I let my family know it.
I’m ashamed to write this – I’m not proud of it. It’s a DAILY battle to fight my insecurities and need to be acknowledged. It’s because I do my work for the wrong reason. It’s also because I have ingested the world’s ideals and ideology for “woman” and my Rights are not being respected. Poor, poor me…
That’s why I love websites like Raising Homemakers.
It reminds me that my work is not always for my family. My work does not always garner tangible rewards or accolades. I don’t really deserve a standing ovation for doing the dishes. It reminds me that I have to keep my eyes on heavenly goals – not just my own lofty aspirations – and that my work is first and foremost, for my Lord.
And I’ll be joining in with them to walk through Doorposts’ Polished Cornerstones – a manual for building Godly character in girls – and look forward to the inspiration and accountability with them…
If you have daughters – I highly recommend Raising Homemakers to you. It is countercultural. It is what some would call “weird,” “old-fashioned,” and maybe even “out of touch.” Don’t let that scare you – check them out for yourself and compare their mission and ministry to Scripture – and then decide…
About Debbie T
Welcome to my blog. Grab a latte and settle in for a good read! I'm Debbie - aka The Queen Mommy. I'm really just a Right-Brained woman who loves God, her husband, and her three children. I This means I'd rather write than clean... I enjoy writing about family & home, faith & life, marriage & parenting, food & addiction. I do participate in affiliate programs and use affiliate links and graphics throughout my blog. If you follow a link and make a purchase, I may make a small commission to help support my family at home. Click here for my Disclosure Policy.
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